TITBIT THOUGHT #24

‘Change is the only thing that doesn’t change.’ – This is a familiar sentence that we are used to hearing often. 

Sometimes when we are in a good place in life, there is a constant fear in mind that a ‘Change’ might come and disrupt what you’ve got. 

How many of us have thought,  ‘What if I don’t want to change?’ 
The truth is, change is going to impose itself on you, whether or not you want it. And the best way to survive in life is to prepare for the change, try to adopt to the changes, or even better make a change by yourself! 
Surprise the ‘Change’ in your life by taking the first step towards Change by yourself! 

Life will be much more simpler that way! 

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THE GIRL WITH THE DRAGON TATTOO

This book was long due for many years. I don’t know why I kept putting it off to take this book and read it. But, man, I am glad that I get to read it finally!!

This is one of the greatest books I have read in quite a while. No wonder it has risen to become one of the best-selling books in the world. The first in the Millennium series, The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo is about a Swedish journalist, Mikael Blomkvist, who made allegations against a billionaire, but wasn’t able to prove his testimony in the court and thus lost the case. 

When Mikael is glooming on his defeat, he is invited by Henrik Vanger, the head of Vanger Corporation, to help him solve a case by offering lucrative money and most importantly, important proofs against the billionaire against whom he had lost the case. Since his career as a journalist was almost over, he found no reason to not accept the assignment.

The assignment was to find out his grandniece, Harriet, who went missing many years back. Henrik Vanger provides him with all the evidence which he had collected over the years. Lisbeth Salander, who aptly signifies the title, The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo, helps him in his case. 

The character Lisbeth Salander was inspired from Steig Larsson‘s real life, when he stood by and watched his acquaintance, Lisbeth, being gang-raped when he was at the age of 15. After that, consumed by guilt, he tried to earn her apology but could not. This character Lisbeth Salander, who is also a rape survivor, is a shadow of the real Lisbeth from his life.

The sad part of the book is that Stieg Larsson died before the book was published. A man who has so brilliantly written such an intricate plot with lots of characters, keeping the clarity intact is to be accoladed. 

A brilliantly crafted book worth spending some worthwhile time. 

I’m waiting eagerly to start on the second book of the Millennium!

IS EQUALITY A FAVOR?

Equality between men and women has been a long-term topic which crops up here and there, with some supporting in favor that equality has indeed been achieved, while some points that, modernism in the world does not even begin to cover equality.

While the world is divided on this topic, from my own personal experiences of these 22 years, equality is a term which people have not even begun to comprehend to the full extent. Equality between men and women doesn’t mean are so ‘generous’ as to ‘give’ the women equality as some sort of ‘favor’. Only when it comes naturally to people, just like we brush your teeth daily. It is not something that people has to do consciously, though at the beginning the need to develop the quality must essentially be started like that.

And to the men, who boast that, they treat their women equally, it is not something to feel proud of. Do you feel proud to provide food for your family? Like everything which is of a necessity, it is something that needs to be put in ‘default mode’.

There is no greater male chauvinist than a man who boasts of treating women around him equally.

 

WHY AM I AFRAID TO BE ALONE?

Before you jump to conclusions like, ‘She may be afraid of ghosts’, or ‘She is paranoid’, or ‘She is scared of murderers’ or something like that, I am sorry to break your thought run, but the thing I’m afraid is far worse than any of it.

I’m afraid of Me.

My thoughts when I’m alone.

The bitter truth of reality that I keep dodging.

My questions to myself.

This is the most scariest because there is no escaping it, at all!

I don’t know if any of you had been through this phase, but this is the hardest for me. If you have, then you would get what I’m coming down to.

One is not comfortable to be with people because, let’s face it, we obviously are not in the right state of mind to make conversations. One is afraid to be alone, because, well I have stated the obvious before, we are afraid of own thoughts.

The minute I close the door to my room, the overflowing door to my heart and mind opens and pours out the chastening, questioning, mortifying thoughts and what-not. It brings out a terrible feeling from inside me that, in fact, what is running in my mind is justified.

‘What are you going to do with your life, your future, this-that problems…’, the questions are non-stop badgering on to my face, mocking me to answer them. And so, I try to block out all these by immersing my thoughts at something else and at times, I am successful too. But the more I push it away at the back of my mind, the more it struggles to make a point everyday, pinching me for my attention.

And then there are sometimes when I think that, “Well, it is the kind of life in early 20’s and I’m gonna rock it in my own way.”Those are the times, when I’m brave enough to face myself.

A SIMPLE GESTURE TO MYSELF, FROM ME!

Hello guys! Having a nice day?

No? You can try to make yourself feel better like me!

The other day, I had a rough day at work which had been followed by a series of rough days before it. When I usually feel bad, I end up sulking and wasting my whole evening. I was so tired of feeling sorry for myself that I decided to do a simple gesture for myself, instead of depending on the outside surroundings.

I did not do anything big. I wanted to feel good about myself, without any third person’s help. So immediately after I came back from work, I took a long, relaxing hot shower, wore my favorite pair of shorts and hoodie, combed my hair real nice like I like, and took out my favorite stash of chocolates, which I always save it for occasions like these! I started out with seeing my favorite series, obviously F.R.I.E.N.D.S (you would have guessed it, if you had read my previous posts!) and then continued on to read the Jeffrey Archer’s Best Kept Secret, which I was halfway through, but hadn’t completed because of, you know these series of rough days burying me.

I made myself feel good about myself, both physically and mentally and I ended up having a good time with myself. I even started playing  some songs and goofing around in my room, jumping up in my bed! That was how much I had lifted my mood up, and to say the least, even I was surprised that such a small gesture to myself brought such a big positive change on me!

That was when I realized that, our control of mood is with us, and not with anyone us. It all comes down to our own self to find out what makes us happy, what factor can bring us back to that little circle of inner contentment, to turn a bad day into good. The one thing is that, we have to really stubborn enough to stand up and say that, ‘Bring it on. Whatever you do, you can’t waver me from my good mood.’

If you guys are having a bad day, all it takes is ‘You’, to be happy amidst the bad day.

Feel free to comment your opinions 🙂

Titbit Thought #2

Promise is not something you do when the conditions are favorable.

It is to still keep up your word even when nothing is favorable.