Not So Anonymous Anymore

‘Anonymous’ – the word that holds a world of secrets than a cryptic dome.

Like some of you, I felt comfortable being anonymous. Don’t take me wrong. I am not someone who hides in a cocoon inside her own room. I am part of many social media accounts and I don’t shy from being active in them.I chose to be anonymous – in Instagram. Not my personal account where I am quite active, but the other account I opened as a sort of blog to pen my feelings and thoughts that randomly crop up in my mind in the most unexpected times.

I have an another blog in WordPress where I write reviews of stories on Wattpad, in my own identity.

So why did I choose to be anonymous in this?

Because it made me feel safe. 

It was the first time I am opening up my feelings and having it out on display for the world to see. I did not want to own my feelings and thoughts – to give a credible source to it.

For many such reasons that seems silly to me now, I decided to ‘not’ identify myself, or more like, I did not want to connect the feelings and thoughts on the blog to myself.

And that Instagram handle is what you see in the right hand side of my blog!

What made me switch from ‘being anonymous’ to ‘connecting my identity to my feelings’?

Courage.

I got fed up of hiding under a pseudonym and angry on myself to be such a coward in social media, while I’m just the opposite of that in my real life.

I wanted to come out of my comfortable zone, and own up to what I deserve, good or bad.

And that moment changed something within me. Though I was brave in my real life, when it comes to my writings, I became the most shy person! I didn’t want the people closest to me to read my writings. But this small step made me to be move forward in that direction.

I am still not 100% comfortable. but I am certainly working towards it and have come a long way to be here till now.

P.S: That Instagram handle’s name is ‘The Thoughtful Rants‘, same like this blog. This blog was started when I revealed my identity in my Instagram handle.

And now that all my readers and followers know who I am, what is need to keep the name ‘The Thoughtful Rants’, which was created for the sole reason of anonymity?

So what do you think? Should I forfeit the blog name and instead take another step forward and use my own identity? 

Please comment your opinions.

An advance thank you to all!

 

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Much-needed Change 

People are generally on the look out for change; for something different which keeps them engaged and on their toes. 

Though at the beginning, changes will be welcomed, as time goes on, once the very interesting work would become a boring one if it is steady and stagnant. 

Even when sometimes change is not welcomed, in the bigger picture, change is what is needed to sustain in life and keep it interesting.  

Change doesn’t necessarily mean the growth in life although that is what people generally hope for. Change can even be in reverse direction. Any kind of change makes people work towards something; drives and motivates people to set a goal or a target and strive to achieve it. 

A constant life might be what people say they need. But only when being in a constant life will one realize that change is what they actually need and starts to secretly and desperately yearn for a change – in any direction. 

Embrace the change in life; it is what makes you look forward to tomorrow. It is what brings all the unknown emotions to the surface. It is what reveals the true colors and real intentions of individuals. 

Change has the capability to bring out the hidden qualities, good and bad thoughts, real feelings and heartfelt emotions. 

The mother of all reasons – change – does more than you realize. Constant change must be the only constant in your life to move forward, to relinquish stagnancy, to push aside the boring life. 

Titbit Thought #29

It is our effort, no matter what the result of it is. Others’ opinions doesn’t matter. 

If you are true to yourself and feel complete satisfaction without an iota of regret, then that is what you need to keep on moving. 

What people think of your efforts is none of your business, even if people judge you when it is none of their business. 

You do not need others to validate your efforts. 

Tap on your own shoulder and move on with your head held high. 

Titbit Thought #25

How do we define Freedom? 

Well, you may come up with multiple perspectives and explanations to define freedom, but, according to me, there is no particular universal form of Freedom, just like Freedom itself. 

But when freedom is bounded by various criteria, then it is actually not freedom. 

The boundary of the society, or family, or oneself must not influence our freedom. There is no term such as Restriction which is associated with Freedom. If it is, then we are probably fooling ourselves into thinking that we have the Freedom. 

For example, if you think you have or want to have Freedom to eat whatever you want, then nothing should stop you! Not the place, not the people around you, not even the food itself! 

If you think you enjoy Freedom, then nothing should influence it. That’s when you enjoy total Freedom and that feeling of having Freedom is incomparable to anything else. 

IS EQUALITY A FAVOR?

Equality between men and women has been a long-term topic which crops up here and there, with some supporting in favor that equality has indeed been achieved, while some points that, modernism in the world does not even begin to cover equality.

While the world is divided on this topic, from my own personal experiences of these 22 years, equality is a term which people have not even begun to comprehend to the full extent. Equality between men and women doesn’t mean are so ‘generous’ as to ‘give’ the women equality as some sort of ‘favor’. Only when it comes naturally to people, just like we brush your teeth daily. It is not something that people has to do consciously, though at the beginning the need to develop the quality must essentially be started like that.

And to the men, who boast that, they treat their women equally, it is not something to feel proud of. Do you feel proud to provide food for your family? Like everything which is of a necessity, it is something that needs to be put in ‘default mode’.

There is no greater male chauvinist than a man who boasts of treating women around him equally.

 

THE BLAME WITHIN

The war within;

so horrendous that,

it terrifies me

of my future.

 

The clashes between, the past

trying hard to match,

with the future ‘imaginary castles’

that I am already living in.

 

I blame the heart, for

it is the culprit that overrode

the brain to make me believe

that unicorns exist.

 

The blame game starts-

the war waging between

the heart and brain

to decide who is the bane.

 

 

‘BEST KEPT SECRET’ BY JEFFREY ARCHER

‘Best Kept Secret’, by Jeffrey Archer was one of the recent books that I laid my hands on, and to say, it kept me hooked till the end, would be underestimating. This is the third book in the line of the Clifton series, but if you would choose to read it as a standalone copy, it would definitely make sense. You don’t need to have to have prior knowledge of the series from the start, though some references in the start of the book, about the book would be from the previous series.

At first, it felt a little bit more as many characters were introduced simultaneously, but as the story progressed, it was very natural to comprehend and go with the flow of the story without any hiccups. The Barringtons’ and the Cliftons’ family and the commitment of each of them towards the family is so perfect. Instead of taking only a lead role and following their life story like the general kind of books, the life of each and every member is described, the happenings in their life and how they are interconnected, is carefully and clearly plotted, so as not to confuse the readers with the characters.

The man, Jeffrey Archer, sure knows the way to retain the readers’ interest till the end, and as usual captivates the readers with his writing. As a person who read it as a standalone book, I would like to say that, don’t just stop yourselves that you hadn’t read the previous ones, because this is, again, one of the best writing from the best-selling author. 🙂

Be tuned for the upcoming posts to read more about the recent books I’m burying my face into! 😀